Responsibilities - Bitter or Sweet!!!
Today was as an unusual day in which God made me twice as active as ever. He also made me realise how poorly I manage my things. I am sure I am echoing thoughts of many friends over here. I hadnt paid the mobile bill on time which totally left me stranded without a connection for an agonising 3 hours.I managed to contact a friend in Airtel who promptly collected the cheque and activated my connection. Then I had some problems with my credit card too. It took some time for me to convince the "citi girl" that I was right. Then came the shock. The Electricity people came in and disconnected the power suply to my house. We had forgotten to pay the bill. I pity my father who is totally running the house. I havent made any contribution to the same. I called up my Dad who told me what needed to be done. So after "taking care" of the electricity officials I went and paid the bill and then there was LIGHT....
This led to me thinking about the question - When does a man realise that he has grown and he should be responsible? When does the metamorphosis take place? When does he start managing things at home ? So I started my analysis in the simplest way. Looking at the people whom I have been closely associated.
My close friends like Rsi(my school mate, an IIT and IIM grad) has always been in command of his things since the day I met him. He took care of his own stuff right from the XIth standard and depended less on his Dad. I think his is a quite exceptional case.
On an average many of my friend depend on Dad for making decisions and paying the bills. Because I guess its universally accepted that its the way it was. My close friends always let their Dad run their money dealings and account transactions. I think thats what my brothers do. As for myself, I have stopped troubling Dad about money. I only ask him advice about how to invest the money. There have been quarrels but I have stuck to what he has said.
But I have never shouldered responsiblities in the house like paying bills , running around for vegetables etc. One moment I stop and think about all those friends of mine (even my elder brother) who are staying away from home. I guess they are all running their home. They pay their bills,wash their clothes,cook their own meals and are masters of their apartments. They dont depend on others to make their decisions. But I am a person who prefers staying at home with parents. It is not only because of the comfort which comes with it but it is the joy of living with the people who have lived for you all their life. I have turned down lucrative offers away from home just to be with my parents. I wish I could be with them even after my marriage. But the point is staying at home, I comfortably shy away from respinsiblities. Be it painting the house, calling the plumber or the electrician or paying the electricity bill , I have never been there for my father. I was too lazy to be involved in such things. Suddenly I realise that one day I need to run my own house and do all these things. I realise that I am partly responsible for the grey hair on my father's head/ Is this the wakeup call for me? I think its time for me to take up some load from the old man. Well I have been thining a lot about it. Let me get back and tell you if I was successful.
This led to me thinking about the question - When does a man realise that he has grown and he should be responsible? When does the metamorphosis take place? When does he start managing things at home ? So I started my analysis in the simplest way. Looking at the people whom I have been closely associated.
My close friends like Rsi(my school mate, an IIT and IIM grad) has always been in command of his things since the day I met him. He took care of his own stuff right from the XIth standard and depended less on his Dad. I think his is a quite exceptional case.
On an average many of my friend depend on Dad for making decisions and paying the bills. Because I guess its universally accepted that its the way it was. My close friends always let their Dad run their money dealings and account transactions. I think thats what my brothers do. As for myself, I have stopped troubling Dad about money. I only ask him advice about how to invest the money. There have been quarrels but I have stuck to what he has said.
But I have never shouldered responsiblities in the house like paying bills , running around for vegetables etc. One moment I stop and think about all those friends of mine (even my elder brother) who are staying away from home. I guess they are all running their home. They pay their bills,wash their clothes,cook their own meals and are masters of their apartments. They dont depend on others to make their decisions. But I am a person who prefers staying at home with parents. It is not only because of the comfort which comes with it but it is the joy of living with the people who have lived for you all their life. I have turned down lucrative offers away from home just to be with my parents. I wish I could be with them even after my marriage. But the point is staying at home, I comfortably shy away from respinsiblities. Be it painting the house, calling the plumber or the electrician or paying the electricity bill , I have never been there for my father. I was too lazy to be involved in such things. Suddenly I realise that one day I need to run my own house and do all these things. I realise that I am partly responsible for the grey hair on my father's head/ Is this the wakeup call for me? I think its time for me to take up some load from the old man. Well I have been thining a lot about it. Let me get back and tell you if I was successful.
posted by Navin Kumar Shanmugam at 12:11 AM
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Navin Kumar's epiphany!! :-)
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